What is True Love?

True love, a feeling everyone craves and searches forever to find. But what is it? What relationship has it? Anyone can claim to have it but only half of those truly do. It's not that hard to find but at the same time it's the hardest to obtain. Do you know why? Because those that quickly claims they have it truly don't because they don't work for it so they lose whatever "love" they did have. Those that work to maintian the relationship will achieve it.

One trait of true love is someone who makes you happy. You know that giggly feeling inside you when you see them, or how they go out of their way just to see you smile. But this trait is one of the most that people claim they have found the "one" because they say the person makes them happy. How many times have you heard someone say "He/she makes me happy, he/she's the one!" after this person has dated this so-called "one" only a day or two? Anyone can make you happy when you just start dating, no matter how long you known them before the dating part, but what makes it true is this person has no hidden motive and only wants to see your smile. Also this person will continue to make you happy through out their life. But once the arguments start people tend to break-up because they're "no longer happy". News flash, arguments will happen and there is no escape from it which requires both sides to compromise and forgive. Happiness isn't all about smiles but knowing this person is in your life making you feel that warm feeling inside of you. That is happiness, that warm feeling that never leaves despite the arguments. Too many give up because they think it's all about the smiles so they just leave without even trying. Instead of leaving they should try compromising and communicating (which are triats of a stable relationship)

Loyalty is a major trait of true love, along with respect and honesty. Actually these three things are important in life in general. If you aren't any of these to your lover than you probably don't have true love. Loyalty keeps you two focused upon each other, and no one can intervene because your bond is too strong to break. No straying eyes if it's true, because you are the only one they want to see and no other person will ever be good enough to be you. No flirting, no kissing, nor "harmless fun" with the another because that is cheating and you never cheat if it's true love. Respect plays a part because you two see each other as equals and would never do anything to make the other feel lesser than they are. You two would never do anything to harm each other, even mentally. Honesty, well love can't be built on lies right? So don't lie.

Love is the most important cause without it, then true love won't exist ever. Anyone can claim they love you, but who truly means it? And how is it the true kind? Well first off you can't claim it's "true love' if you only dated them two days because it doesn't give anyone enough time to prove that love. Words are just words if there is no action to make them correct. For instance, would someone who says they love you would go off cheating? Doesn't sound like love to me. As i sated before, true lovers don't cheat. That's the problem with many people, they hear that phrase and automatically think they have found true love because the person says they "love" them. No, it's not true love unless the other person's actions says so as well. If a person shows their love by never cheating, staying by your side, making you happy, showing their affection towards you, staying honest, and keeps to their word then it could be true love. Anything else won't make it. Also if you don't know if you love them, then you don't love them. When you love someone you never deny it, cause if you do then it's not love.

It just really irks me and even makes me a bit mad seeing people begin to date someone and automatically claim they found "the one" and you know it's not true, because in the past they claimed the same thing where the relationship failed. Also don't say "well i was just lying to myself that i was in love", No you was not "lying" to yourself, either you mistakenly thought you was or you knew you wasn't. No offense but saying that phrase makes you sould like someone who can't own up to their mistake. Just say you was wrong, how hard is that? You just  thought you was. Saying you lied to yourself makes you sould like a liar. Also when you claim to have found the "one" after hopping from person to person is not even love, it's stupidty and causes drama that way. You can't love all those people and if  you are so quickly to move on after a "love" then it was never love to begin with. Heartbreaks don't heal that quickly. Ignorant people as these will never find true love because they lack the many traits. Also saying "I'm not interested in anybody, i just want someone to love and someone that cares enough to stay by myside if they offer that, I'll let them take as long as they need" is a very stupid thing to do because you end up dating anyone who claims they love you and you will never find the true one because you won't work for it and you set yourself up for harm.

So next time you or someone you know says they found the "one" then check if they have those traits cause that's the best way to see if it's true love. If not, well that's their choice and you can't stop them from dating (that's wrong). I do have to admit I do wish to wack some people in the back of the head for being stupid because I so tire of hearing it's "the one" or "it's true love!" when in fact it's not. You can't be true without love, loyalty, honesty, respect, happiness of both, and compromise. cause anything else is false. Don't ask me "how would you know?" either because I do know because I been with my love for 2 years now and we compromise, love each other, loyal, respect and are honest. We would do anything to make the other happy. We love each other so it's true love. If you have those traits and maintain your relationship then it true. Love is only easy as much effort you put into it.