Obsession

They say if you have a crush on someone longer than 4 months it's considered love, but when does love pass the line into obsession? How does one know if they passed the line? Love is a strong feeling that leaves one confused, mixed emotions, and takes control of your mind, heart, and soul. Love can make you think about someone all the time, start of a second to the longest years, and you won't forget who you love. It can make you do stuff you normaly would never do just to be with the person you love, and you would do anything to make them happy. It can make you miss a person until your heart breaks and hurts the worse when that person does not return the same feelings. That is symptoms of love, but I ask you, what makes someone cross the line into obsession? How does the one know the difference between the two?

Obessession is when you base every moment of you life around one person, and only that person until your every descision is based on him/her. You will do anything in your capability to be with this person no matter what or who gets in the way. Often spreading lies to others that you are with this person because it's what you've been dreaming about since you fell in love. But is it love? To never move on in your life because you desire to be with only this person even if there is someone out there who could make you just as happy; Would you risk new happiness to feel forever pain because you can't move on? That is obsession. Seeing only what you want to see and forever wallowing in misery due to refusing happiness until you have that person is far worse obessions there is which will lead to dangerous situations. Dangers such as stalking this person knowing every detail about his/her life, lying to everyone to subatoge any "competition" you have with this person so you can be together, and even self-harming yourself once you don't get your way.

How do we know when we cross the line into obsession? How does one get out of it? Can they get out of it once they reach that critical point? Can we help someone like this or are they doomed? The major question is, how do we prevent obsession? We see the signs but confuse them with love and once you're in love you are already in a confusing place in the beginning, how do we decipher when we cross the line? What if one refuses to see what they're blinded to? When the term "move on" no longer works when the person refuses to see the positive in any situation due to being completly fixated on that person; is when you have crossed into obsession. Obsessed people won't move on and refuses happiness then complains about being miserable. Beware the obsession and look for the signs before it's too late.