We all have least one of those "friends" that talk badly about us behind our backs. They have those big egos where they talk to make them look better but it just proves how jealous they are of you. They're annoying, arne't they? Well I have one and she just loves getting drunk to talk to the wrong person about me. This post is about her jealous ways.
No names are named in my blog for privacy issues and safety.
Here how it is, I been friends with this person for years (since 6th grade) and I always been a good friend to her, though she wasn't a good friend to me by bringing me down by lowering my confidence in myself and her opinions were brutal, though I stayed her friend due to i valued friendship too much. Anyway, well since we graduated we drifted apart and lived our own lives. When we did talk it was regular chitchat and it was short. She only talked to me when she had time, though I tried talking to her. Well, it's been a year now since I last spoken to her (back in August when she learned I was engaged) but unfortuantly it was a month ago I heard the first time that she been talking badly behind my back for years, and worse it was to my fiance (who she is hassling whenever he gets online). She is drunk when she contacts him and automatically starts complaining despite the many times he tells her to stop and tries ignoring her.
The first insult I learned she said was about when I broke up with my ex years ago, she had said "She should never had a boyfriend just like her parents wanted" Which isnt' surprising since she said long ago that she and he dated and commenting to me when I first dated him that "I can't believe you're dating my cast off". So she wasn't fond of my first relationship and had to speak badly about it. Though I do have to say she has many exes through the years and she always had some sort of boyfriend, so why does she care who I dated?
The second insult I heard was back in August 2011 right after I got engaged (which she got engaged a week later after I did once she learned about mine) she got drunk (once again) contacing my fiance saying that he's making a mistake when he "could have the whole buffett instead of the weak salad" refering to her as the "buffett" and I the "weak salad", and then she says that I'm "uglier and less fortuante" than her. What friend does this? To hit on another's man and talk trash about them? Not to mention she was already engaged herself! I let it go since she was drunk and without the proof (it was deleted) she would just deny it.
Well months passed and here we are today when I learned a third time she became drunk and a slip of the tongue to my fiance once again (he really needs to block her...). She started complaining about her life and how much of a "chicken" I am. I ask you how am I the chicken? Last I checked I had no feathers nor a beak, and unlike her I'm not the one too scared to say say those insults to my face.
See how jealousy makes a friend a horrible fiend? Friends like this aren't friends but insecure cowards who have to bring down others to make themselves feel better about their own life. I will say I'm not offended by her words because it's pointless to be, I just want her to stop hassling my fiance, but I know she'll get what's coming to her. I am not intimidated by her either cause by her actions, I am far better than she will ever be. I have a good life compared to hers, I have people who do love me where they refuse to believe her ugly words, I have a loving fiance who will defend my name no matter what, I have a loving heart and a nice personality that makes me beautiful, and I have a bright future. So tell me how is she more 'fortuante" than me? Though it does confuse me why she keeps talkign about me? I haven't talked to her in a year so where does she get the right to keep bringing up my name? I spoke no harsh words about her nor do I do any actions for her to complain about. I think she's obsessed with me to be honest since she is so jealous that she has to talk about me and her being drunk has destroyed her common sense cause she doesnt' realize that whatever she says to my fiance will get back to me.
If you do have a "friend" like this, just remember that they are no friend and they are just jealous of you. Jealousy is an ugly trait and worse when people act upon it, but dont' let it bring you down cause it just means you are far better than them. Embrace it cause as the saying goes "what comes around goes around" that jealous person will get what's coming to them in a matter of time. Let karma deal with them as you dance in the glory of beign better since that jealous person already just proved you are better by talking about you. I do advise if it does get worse confront them about it maturaly and stop being friends with them cause friends dont' talk trash behind friends backs.
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Sunday, March 18, 2012
Monday, March 12, 2012
Obsession
They say if you have a crush on someone longer than 4 months it's considered love, but when does love pass the line into obsession? How does one know if they passed the line? Love is a strong feeling that leaves one confused, mixed emotions, and takes control of your mind, heart, and soul. Love can make you think about someone all the time, start of a second to the longest years, and you won't forget who you love. It can make you do stuff you normaly would never do just to be with the person you love, and you would do anything to make them happy. It can make you miss a person until your heart breaks and hurts the worse when that person does not return the same feelings. That is symptoms of love, but I ask you, what makes someone cross the line into obsession? How does the one know the difference between the two?
Obessession is when you base every moment of you life around one person, and only that person until your every descision is based on him/her. You will do anything in your capability to be with this person no matter what or who gets in the way. Often spreading lies to others that you are with this person because it's what you've been dreaming about since you fell in love. But is it love? To never move on in your life because you desire to be with only this person even if there is someone out there who could make you just as happy; Would you risk new happiness to feel forever pain because you can't move on? That is obsession. Seeing only what you want to see and forever wallowing in misery due to refusing happiness until you have that person is far worse obessions there is which will lead to dangerous situations. Dangers such as stalking this person knowing every detail about his/her life, lying to everyone to subatoge any "competition" you have with this person so you can be together, and even self-harming yourself once you don't get your way.
How do we know when we cross the line into obsession? How does one get out of it? Can they get out of it once they reach that critical point? Can we help someone like this or are they doomed? The major question is, how do we prevent obsession? We see the signs but confuse them with love and once you're in love you are already in a confusing place in the beginning, how do we decipher when we cross the line? What if one refuses to see what they're blinded to? When the term "move on" no longer works when the person refuses to see the positive in any situation due to being completly fixated on that person; is when you have crossed into obsession. Obsessed people won't move on and refuses happiness then complains about being miserable. Beware the obsession and look for the signs before it's too late.
Obessession is when you base every moment of you life around one person, and only that person until your every descision is based on him/her. You will do anything in your capability to be with this person no matter what or who gets in the way. Often spreading lies to others that you are with this person because it's what you've been dreaming about since you fell in love. But is it love? To never move on in your life because you desire to be with only this person even if there is someone out there who could make you just as happy; Would you risk new happiness to feel forever pain because you can't move on? That is obsession. Seeing only what you want to see and forever wallowing in misery due to refusing happiness until you have that person is far worse obessions there is which will lead to dangerous situations. Dangers such as stalking this person knowing every detail about his/her life, lying to everyone to subatoge any "competition" you have with this person so you can be together, and even self-harming yourself once you don't get your way.
How do we know when we cross the line into obsession? How does one get out of it? Can they get out of it once they reach that critical point? Can we help someone like this or are they doomed? The major question is, how do we prevent obsession? We see the signs but confuse them with love and once you're in love you are already in a confusing place in the beginning, how do we decipher when we cross the line? What if one refuses to see what they're blinded to? When the term "move on" no longer works when the person refuses to see the positive in any situation due to being completly fixated on that person; is when you have crossed into obsession. Obsessed people won't move on and refuses happiness then complains about being miserable. Beware the obsession and look for the signs before it's too late.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Is blood really thicker than water?
What does family stand for anymore? When you think of family in general, what do you think about? What do you feel? I was raised believing family comes first and is everything. And to this day I still hold onto that belief.
My opinion on family is this, they are the ones that you run to when trouble awaits. They take your fears away, holding, pulling you up without a doubt. They love each other and stand beside each other despite the arguments. When you have nowhere to go you can always come home. Family is home, isn't it? Home, a place of warmth and the place you feel lonely if you are far from it. Family is a bond that shouldn't be broken and holds strong.
However, in todays world it seems family is just another word. No one values the meaning behind it anymore so many families fight, argue, and worse hate each other. I see around me so much hate between people who supposed to love each other and take care, but they disown or threaten each other instead. Including my own family isn't perfect and seems to have weak bonds. People telling lies to harm each other, stealing, and turning their backs. Why is this? Why is there so much selfishness and hatred in families? Why do they act this way? Is there no love anymore?
I just don't understand any of it. I was always a family orintated person who values family and those close to me (who I consider family as well). I would do anything in my power to help because I love them, they are my family. It hurts me to see all this negativity concerning families, including my own. When I was little I always treasured and smiled at how "perfect" my family was, hanging out together, smiling and no nonsense fighting. Now that I'm older, I see what was blinded to me as a child, no "perfect" family but immature people arguing over stupid things instead of helping each other as they should be. I see leaching and taking advantage of instead of pulling each other up and encouraging. I see people never speaking again due to anger instead of compromising. I see blaming instead of fixing the problem. I see immature adults who rather hate each other than a loving family. It kills me inside seeing this what i was blinded to as a child. I hold my tongue because I still hope and refuse to see this negativity, and if I did speak up, would they listen? In the eyes of some I am still viewed as a child, so will they listen to me? Will they listen to the voice of reason? the voice that views her family as her everything?
What bothers me the most is my feelings deep within, the frustration and fear of it all. Will I snap like I did in a dream I had? Scream out and run outside the house finding some members chanting in the darkness naked around a fire? Probably not the naked chanting part, since it's symbolism of me being scared to see the truth in the situation (symbolism found at DreamMoods.com). I'm scared to snap one day. Despite eveything, I love my family and it pains me to see others hate theirs. Why so much hate? Family love should be valued not thrown away. Blood isn't everything, but love is. No more hating, spread love instead. Should't we love our family instead of hating it? Family should equal love, never hate. That's what I believe and will forever believe it no matter what.
My opinion on family is this, they are the ones that you run to when trouble awaits. They take your fears away, holding, pulling you up without a doubt. They love each other and stand beside each other despite the arguments. When you have nowhere to go you can always come home. Family is home, isn't it? Home, a place of warmth and the place you feel lonely if you are far from it. Family is a bond that shouldn't be broken and holds strong.
However, in todays world it seems family is just another word. No one values the meaning behind it anymore so many families fight, argue, and worse hate each other. I see around me so much hate between people who supposed to love each other and take care, but they disown or threaten each other instead. Including my own family isn't perfect and seems to have weak bonds. People telling lies to harm each other, stealing, and turning their backs. Why is this? Why is there so much selfishness and hatred in families? Why do they act this way? Is there no love anymore?
I just don't understand any of it. I was always a family orintated person who values family and those close to me (who I consider family as well). I would do anything in my power to help because I love them, they are my family. It hurts me to see all this negativity concerning families, including my own. When I was little I always treasured and smiled at how "perfect" my family was, hanging out together, smiling and no nonsense fighting. Now that I'm older, I see what was blinded to me as a child, no "perfect" family but immature people arguing over stupid things instead of helping each other as they should be. I see leaching and taking advantage of instead of pulling each other up and encouraging. I see people never speaking again due to anger instead of compromising. I see blaming instead of fixing the problem. I see immature adults who rather hate each other than a loving family. It kills me inside seeing this what i was blinded to as a child. I hold my tongue because I still hope and refuse to see this negativity, and if I did speak up, would they listen? In the eyes of some I am still viewed as a child, so will they listen to me? Will they listen to the voice of reason? the voice that views her family as her everything?
What bothers me the most is my feelings deep within, the frustration and fear of it all. Will I snap like I did in a dream I had? Scream out and run outside the house finding some members chanting in the darkness naked around a fire? Probably not the naked chanting part, since it's symbolism of me being scared to see the truth in the situation (symbolism found at DreamMoods.com). I'm scared to snap one day. Despite eveything, I love my family and it pains me to see others hate theirs. Why so much hate? Family love should be valued not thrown away. Blood isn't everything, but love is. No more hating, spread love instead. Should't we love our family instead of hating it? Family should equal love, never hate. That's what I believe and will forever believe it no matter what.
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