How to avoid online "Drama"

Oh dear lordy the drama I see! Well, majority of them are young teenagers so it’s common for them to act this immature and idiotic. Let me try to enlighten others where they learn from these idiotic drama-central mistakes.

Everything is kept anonymous for privacy and safety reasons.

                First off, when you make “call-out” journals (online walls of text that you post) that is STARTING drama regardless if it says “I’m DONE. THIS DRAMA ENDS” or blah-blah, of another person who wronged you or someone you know in some way. It’s bringing attention to the issue again regardless of what you say. You are in fact NOT “letting it go” you are putting more flame to the fire. Best thing to do when someone does something you hate? Ignore them! And if it’s harming you in some way then REPORT them. Do NOT make journal/comments about the person over and over and expect others to think you are “letting it go” because you are not. And secondly, “old comments” aren’t 2 days old, 2 days old comments are RECENT. Yes, it’s in the past but it doesn’t make them old comments enough to say “that comment was TWO days ago, EVERYONE has moved on” if you are making a video response to so-called person and say this, yeah you’re not moved on and those aren’t old comments. Least give it a week or longer to be considered old enough to say that. Also this applies to “Aw someone blocked me! Boo-hoo, how awful (sarcasm)” which is just starting more drama and proves that you’re making a big deal out of being blocked by a particular person. Again, just damn ignore it and stop bringing attention to it.

                Second off, just because someone has a different opinion of you don’t make them a horrible person or that you have to hate them. Unless that person has harmed or harassed you/others, that gives you no right to bash on their name. To say you “don’t Watch me, i don’t’ want people I hate watching me!” because someone told you something that disagreed with you, you are a selfish brat. If you don’t want someone watching you then ask them nicely, or just block them (it’s horrible but saves on drama). And why hate on someone who’s being civil with you? You are a seriously messed up individual if you are constantly kicking out friends who say something you don’t like instead of talking it out. Don’t complain that you have no friends if you are constantly blocking them out of your life because you can’t handle those who have different voices than you.

                Third off, don’t harass or tell others to harass anyone! Yes, there are people who are horrible and say horrible things, but making a journal/comment where you allow others to constantly say horrible things about/to this person is making you a hypocrite. You never bully the bully. Again REPORT and IGNORE. Yes, you’re allowed to have an opinion and free speech, but you are NOT allowed to harass another individual just because they say horrible things. Seriously, that just makes you a hypocrite and the same as them. It’s fine to warn others to be wary of a person, but never drop down to their level. And again, this only adds more fuel to the fire when you’re trash talking them on a PUBLIC site where everyone (including them) to see it. You’re only adding more fuel to the fire that will lead to an explosion if no one learns how to ignore it and report. Also, if you are calling someone an “attention whore” while complaining in MULTIPLE comments about this person, then, sweetie, you are also seeking attention, therefore again, making you look like a hypocrite. Learn to shut up about the person and move on!

                Fourth off, stop bringing others into your personal drama. That’s fine to confide in a friend, but when you start posting it online where everyone can see and telling others who this person is and every single detail, then you are making an army against this person. And people will act on their own will so they will say something to this person and pour gasoline onto the fire. So if it’s personal and you don’t want drama, keep it off the damn web.

Fifth off, if know you have drama with an individual in the past then why the fuck do you continue to watch them again? Yes, it’s fine giving other chances but when it’s PASSED the 3^rd chance then you need to let them go! Stop interacting with them. Stop watching them. Stop trying to be friends when in fact you both are known to cause drama that will escalate very quickly. Don’t “clear out my blocked list” to try to make amends with others by setting up a place you can talk over and over. IF it didn’t’ happen well the first few times, then darling it’s NOT ever going to happen. There is a reason the blocked list exists, please learn to use it wisely than as a door to slam in others faces and expect to open it back up again to them. Just stay the fuck away from them. If you aren’t interacting with the person then your drama will cut down a lot. However, if they are genuinely sorry for something then yes you can forgive them and try again, but if it doesn’t end then you need to end the relationship before more drama starts. Don’t’ hang with people who stress you out.

The internet isn’t’ your personal journal where you can dump all your secrets and expect others to obey the privacy that you claim you have. It doesn’t work that way. The internet is PUBLIC for EVERYONE to see, and if you wouldn’t leave your real-life journal open in a middle of a crowded room with people staring at you, then why the hell would you post it online? It’s the same thing. Nothing is secret. Nothing is sacred. Nothing is private! IF you don’t want others commenting then don’t post it to begin with. If you don’t want others involved in “drama” then don’t post it. If you don’t want other opinions given to you, then keep it to yourself and don’t push them down other people’s throats. If you don’t want people you hate watching your page, then stay off the internet. Is internet drama stressing you out? Then keep the damn drama offline and learn to ignore something than whine about it every chance you get. How stupid can people be to not grasp these concepts? IGNORE and REPORT (if it’s harassment).Geez, how hard is that for people to do?

Hateful Hypocrisy

Well folks it has been awhile! And I figured I’m in such an irritable mood and pissed off at something I saw online that I need to do a long rant in detail about the stuff I see.  Beware of sarcasm and I may offend someone since the internet is easily offended nowadays, but oh well.

Everything is kept anonymous for safety and privacy reasons.

Alright, I want to ask, what is the deal with this Cis vs Trans war going on the internet? For those of who you don’t know, Cis is “Cisgender is a term used to describe people who, for the most part, identify as the gender they were assigned at birth. For example, if a doctor said “it's a boy!” when you were born, and you identify as a man, then you could be described as cisgender” while Trans is when someone feels the opposite gender is their true gender from what they were born as.  Well, Trans-folk get bullied and ridiculed for being different from society, and my heart goes out to them, however, online there are few trans that got it into their heads they’re going to hate on Cis people for the crimes some transphobes done to them. Basically, they’re bullying a whole set of people based on them being Cis because they’re tired of feeling oppressed. And if you disagree in their choice of actions, well you get called a transphobe. Lovely, isn’t it? Found these particular people around on DeviantArt and Tumblr (which I just browse since I don’t have an account and not wanting to get one)

                First off, that’s a bunch of hypocrisy. You are not ALLOWED to bully others who you never even met just because some awful people bullied you. And tell them to “go die” or “I wish you would die” is NOT helping your case and makes you an asshole. You do NOT ever wish death on a person just because they disagreed with you on something you said, and you do NOT keep bullying innocent people because they are Cis. Yeah, Trans are oppressed compared to Cis, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BULLY! What part of bullying is wrong don’t people understand? How blind do they have to be to not realize that they’re doing the exact same thing to another that was done to them? If you were bullied and hate being bullied, then you start to bully another for the same reason they bullied you, do you know what I call that? A damn hypocrite. And if you tell someone who’s being civil with you they’re “transphobic” for simply disagreeing with your actions, then you’re a idiot. And no, I’m not being ablest for using “idiot”. It’s a common word that’s been called to every person equally so take your “ablest” and “transphobic” whining elsewhere because you’re looking a child. Transphobia is when someone hates on trans-gender people and only hating on trans-gender people, it has NOTHING to do with disagreeing with you because you’re trans-gendered! And what’s even more degrading is that you aren’t even Trans! If you are born a girl and go by “she/her” pronouns then sweetie, you’re a Cis too! And yes, “she/her” ARE FEMINE PRONOUNS. How ignorant can you freakin’ be? Look it up! Or you in so much denial that you can’t think like a regular human being? How stubborn can you be to not see your own hypocrisy?

                And stop with this “it’s my anxiety! I’m sorry, it’s not my fault!” bullshit. You have every control of what you say and do regardless of what you say, and no mental illness can bail you out of your own bad choices. That’s good that you apologize, but it means shit if you continue doing it over and over by telling people to die. “Someone told me telling someone to die is not the same as a death threat” then claiming you believed this because you’re very gullible? Who in the right minds would believe that? You are not a child! Who is that gullible?! You are NOT making the world “safe” by wishing death on people, that’s opposite of safe! You are no better than the people you hate, and from what I see, you’re worse. You are making it harder to live in a society that’s supporting hate. You can’t fight hate with hate! Seriously, what is wrong with people???

                And don’t get me started on one single offensive word gets an army against you. I saw someone get bashed on because she used the word “idiot” and been called “ablest” or something. People bashed on this person for it and even calling the person all sorts of names, which is again bullying. Bullying is still bullying regardless of the reason, why can’t people get that trough their thick heads? So what someone said a small word that you don’t like? Instead of raging and rounding up an army against them, how about move on and forget about it? If it’s not directed at you and not harming anyone, then who the fuck cares of what the person said? I’ve seen people get offended from “ablest” words they claim are “Crazy’ “psycho” “dumbass” “idiot” and many others that make no sense. Seriously, if you are getting so bent out of shape because someone used the word crazy, then you obviously need help and a reality check. Get off the internet! You’re too sensitive for it!

                And what’s up with these “triggered” warnings? So someone must put every single negative warning on their picture, story, or post if they used the negative substance like swearing, drugs, rape, violence, gore, blood, etc.? I understand people been through a lot, and I’m sorry for their pain, but seriously, are you going to bitch at a stranger for having a bloody picture that “triggered” you? IF you know what triggers you then DON’T look for it! I’m sorry but why should every one put a warning on something to prevent you from having an “anxiety attack” if you happen to come upon it? So this random stranger must act like your parent? No. Just no. You are your own person and responsible for YOUR own actions so bashing on a stranger’s post because they didn’t put a “trigger warning” on their post is not alright! Yes, there are ratings and warnings, but if the post is tame and just mentions it once, you damn go ballistic and call in the dogs on this person. How childish are you? If you are this overly sensitive to what you view online, then stay off the internet! Seriously, stay off of it until you can handle what you may find. If you’re anxiety is that bad, then get help than just staying online bitching to people about who or what triggered you to be in pain. Cause then you’re only harming yourself. No one is to blame if you find something that you don’t like. And don’t turn this around making you the victim by saying “that person is heartless!! How dare they not put a trigger warning!” because you are just being a crybaby now.

                And who the hell came up with pronouns such as “fae” “bae” “fairy” or “bun”?? Those are NOUNS not PRONOUNS. That’s fine if you want to stay neutral with Ze/zer/zem, even though those aren’t technically ones either, but I respect them. I don’t respect people for making up random nouns to step away from the “norm” or “society” and feel “special” then bitch when others feel uncomfortable calling you them. Just because someone feels uncomfortable doesn’t mean they are bashing on you so why the hell do you bash on them? Again, going BACK to the BULLYING. I’m sorry but you’re NOT ALLOWED to bully others like that. People are uncomfortable with those “pronouns” because they never heard of them and aren’t really pronouns. And not to mention that other Trans-gender people are even annoyed with those pronouns. They don’t even like it so stop being a spoiled brat and accept reality already. It’s fine being different, but if you’re forcing people to use words that may have been made up then you’re just childish. What’s sad is some of these aren’t even children, they’re teens or adults, who obviously has never been in the real world.

                It all comes down to internet bullying from everyone who can’t accept things. The internet is a safe haven for everyone to connect with new friends and escape to a place where we belong, but people make it an unsafe area when they start bullying and bashing on others. Not to mention it’s becoming overly sensitive where every single thing is a sin that must be caged and obeyed by people who thing they are owed something. No, you’re not owed anything. You can’t NOT hate on someone who is more privileged, skin color, gender, race, doesn’t agree with you on a topic, or because they don’t call you by a certain thing. Hate doesn’t end Hate, Hate only brings hypocrisy. I’m fucking sick and tired of seeing overly-dramatic over-sensitive crybabies online bashing and name calling others because they were “offended”. So what if you were offended? I get offended everyday but I don’t go around with a pitch fork crying “Slay the beast!” I fucking let it go and move on with my life. “Crazy” may be an “ablest” word to you, but sweetie, I fucking been called a whole lot worse in a single text message, but I didn’t go tell this person to die or rally up others to bash them, I told them to fuck off and blocked the person. It’s not that hard to ignore and block something. It’s not that hard to not get offended over every single thing you see online. And you’re not making anything “safe” with violence.

                People just need to stay offline and go out to play in the fresh air for once. Get the taste of the real world because you’re not going to act like a whiny brat in real life as you do online. And if you want to “save” people then get off your ass and support them by lifting them up, not bringing others down. Go out and protest civil or something, not right blogs about how a person needs to die -_- seriously? Who in their right mind would wish death on a stranger and feel happiness when you insult someone? Every one of us are humans, and if you are born human then you are a damn human so stop saying you’re not, with a beating heart. We are no different from each other except in our minds and souls, so why do we hate on one another? Why would you wish death on another living being who has done nothing wrong except posted something you disliked online? You have to be a cruel, heartless person to do that. No one ever should receive death threats. A bully is a bully if they bash and send death threats, and what a sad pathetic life they must live. And again, it’s just the internet, we’re not your parents to make sure you’re little feelings didn’t’ get hurt over some stranger’s random post that wasn’t threatening you. Sometimes I wonder if the internet should have a maturity test in order to use it and bans you if you act like a whiny overly-dramatic asshole. Maybe then I can stop running into idiots online.

Rant ended. For now.