Sensitivity vs. "tough skin"

All my life I have been sensitive where words really hurt me, and after 22 (my age) that seems to not change. The only thing I have changed is masking my tears and hiding the pain where others can not view it, why? Because all my life people hated upon me for my sensitivity, and the other day in an disagreement that led to a bad argument (over something trivial) a person told me I should "leave my emotions at the door" and be "thick-skinned" just because I got angry with him when he insulted me by his "truth" in what supposed to be a simple disagreement over opinions.

As always what I say in MY blog is my opinions and my thoughts about others. If you don't like it then too damn bad, go somewhere else to read. I'm sorry but people like to argue with me and don't know when to shut up when I say I want to stop arguing.

First off, what's wrong with being sensitive? Why is it such a taboo to people that they believe we are weak just because we get hurt easily? Sensitive people are only human and we do live upon our emotions. Without emotions all you are is a cold person who don't know how to feel, and in order to understand someone you must try feeling what they feel. Put yourself in others shoes first to feel and to think logically. The sensitive people have the biggest hearts because we care so much about others we will rarely bring you down, but those who don't care for emotions are very quick to harm another believing their words are "true".

Secondly, you can think logically and have emotions too. Emotions equal passion about something making you determined to stand up for you beliefs, and the logic helps you overcome you obstances regardless of the argument at hand. I will never "leave my emotions at the door" simply because I refuse to be cold towards another and give up on what I believe when I still disagree. When I disagree it doesn't mean I refuse to believe you simply because "i don't want to", no, it means I just don't agree with what you are saying, and if you call me names because of it like "being blind to the core" then you just proved you are an arrogant asshole. People can agree to disagree, and that has nothing to do with emotions, it simply means accepting that each person disagrees and move on with something else. but if you damn continue arguing then that proves your emotions are taking control since you can't accept someone thinks differently than you. So who's the emotional one now?

Thirdly, don't damn ever compare yourself to me when I state a problem such as "i been bullied" because despite that you been bullied too, does not mean you know what i went through. I got bullied because I was sensitive and "weak", and i seriously doubt you know how that feels by simply saying "i was bullied too but i learned to deal with it" bullshit! No one should ever learn to "deal with it" because bullying is wrong! Bashing is wrong! And no one is allowed to bash immaturly then bash another person for disagreeing with them! Yes, I am sensitive where words harm me but I'm also mature enough to hold my temper where I speak kindly and want to end the argument which you seem to not want to stop. Your "tough-skin" has clouded your judgement as a human being where you have to insult someone just to prove your point. that's really immature and you, sir, are an asshole.

I am sick and damn tired of people hammering on me just because I'm not "tough-skinned" enough to handle things that upset me. That is just who I am, I was born this way and i'll probably always be this way. But that gives you no right to insult me over it. I tried changing so many times, to stop caring and lock up these harmful emotions, but I keep failing cause I keep crying. I hate crying because others put in my mind that I am weak because of it, so I beat myself up even more trying not to damn cry! It's stressful and frustrating! Why must I change to please you? Why can't people just accept me as me? I have became so confused to what I should do that I am broken inside.

And I can't simply "ignore" an argument that strikes me because it's in my nature to always defend/protect when someone insults me any way. But I can only take so much were I get upset and flusttered where I cannot defend myself well, and what's worse is I'm all alone in these battles because others wish me to simply "ignore it" "learn from it" or they don't show up in time to help me. Then I get depressed for being sensitive where I cannot simply defend myself, and the help that I need i get refused. am I really that pathetic? I really do wish I could lock my emotions away sometimes so people will stop harming me so much...but I fear that will never happen and i'm stuck being hurt all the time and no one can help me. No one can help because there is no way they can.

I'm a sensitive person. Either accept it or please leave me the fuck alone... I am already broken from others, what else you going to do to me?

All Furries are people, but not all people are furries.

Before I begin this rant I first would like to say I don’t really consider myself a Furry even though I could fit into the category since my RPC has wolf characteristics (such as ears and tail) but isn’t full-body like majority of them. I have nothing against Furries and I'm friends with some. Even some of my close friends consider themselves furries. This rant isn’t about the furries in general, but about how some people have taken it too far where it seems it has became their reality where the world itself has been forgotten.

As always I do not give out names for safety and privacy. Everything is anonymous.

Some furries take their role-play way too seriously where reality doesn’t exist to them. For example to what I mean, lets say two different animal furries such as a canine and a herbivore become friends, but the herbivore is offended by the canine furry because he/she is a canine, so either the canine furry change their fursona (their furry Role-play character personality) or they lose a friend. How stupid is that? Why can’t they be friends? Why is the herbivore offended/uncomfortable by the other furry’s canine fursona? Is he/she afraid the canine will eat their fursona? If so then that’s the stupidest thing ever. It’s role-play for lord’s sake! Not real, and you should never judge on someone’s outer appearance (or fursona in this case). Anyone can be friends no matter who you are, so why care about the different animal fursonas? It really is annoying when I see furries act badly towards others just because of a particular fursona. It makes you as a person in reality a bad person. It’s not real so it gives you no right to judge people like that, and it’s really annoying.

Another thing is some furries stereotype other furries just by what fursona they take on. Like for example, someone meets several of the same type of animal fursona so the person automatically believes every fursona of that animal is the same. Let’s say a lion since that’s the one I hear complained about the most. A person meets several lion fursonas and the person dislikes the lions’ personalities due to their "prideful" nature so the person automatically believes every lion he/she meets will act this way. Yes, the idea with furries is to act like the animal you are pretending to be, but why must you automatically stereotype every particular animal a certain why just because a few of those furries did you wrong? That’s like saying every gothic person is morbid and hates the world. It’s freakin’s stereotyping and wrong to do. Don’t blame a category just because you have bad luck with certain types of people. Just like in reality with normal stereotypes, not all groups of indiviuals will act the same way. I have met some up-beat and happy gothic people, and I have a friend who’s fursona is a lioness who’s far from being "prideful".

One thing that really does irk me is when someone talks about a person who isn’t a furry as a "non-furry" when the conversation has nothing to do with being a furry. Why couldn’t you just say a "person" or "someone"? Why must you make it sound like it’s a bad thing to not be a furry? This is what I mean when I say when people lose reality in their role-play world. Yes, it’s fine to live in your fantasy but you shouldn’t forget about reality and the people that live within it. This is also stereotyping people and makes me get the impression you are treating them like outcasts just because they aren’t a "furry". They are still a person just like you regardless of what role-play they do, or if they even do role-play. It’s fine when you are role-playing or the conversation has to do with furries to say "non-furry" but why would you call someone that when you are talking about something that has nothing to do with those subjects? Also the same goes for complaining about how "furries" act when the complaint has nothing to do with role-play, but normal reality matters such as relationships. For examples for both, lets say someone (that is a furry) is annoyed with someone who’s not a furry because that person comments about the person’s (who’s a furry) personality in reality. Then that person complains to his/her friends saying something like "A non-furry just got offended by my personality". See what I mean? Even though the situation had NOTHING to do with being a furry, the person automatically has to talk about furries and refers to others as "non-furries". The other example is like this, a person (the furry) has friends who are also furries that tend to get into relationships too much either for their role-play or even for reality. The person complains about this referring them to "furries" than "people" even though people (no matter who/what you are) act badly in relationships. When talking about something that isn’t furry-related why must you always consider people as either furries or non-furries? It’s annoying because you are labeling people.

My main deal with those who are furries is when they lose themselves in their role-play and forget their living in the real world. There are people out there who may not share your interests but that doesn’t mean you can write them off as "non-furries" and treat them differently like outcasts or something. The Furry-world (you could call it) is all that they see or care about, and everything else is just a passing blur. They have to act in a specific way even if it means they act differently than they normally would to fit this "animal", or maybe even start labeling people by their chosen animal than the person themselves. It reminds me of high school in the movies with all those school labels. If you don’t fit in their "group" you are an outcast, and if you are a certain animal you are already judged before you are met just because that particular animal was used by a person who had a bad attitude. I don’t care about the constant role-play, or bringing fantasy to reality, but it’s when you lose reality and start acting like jerks is when it becomes unbearable.

There is a huge difference in bringing fantasy (role-play) to reality and having fantasy take over your reality. The first one is a balance that states you love being able to fly but you know when to touch your feet back to the ground when the time comes. The second staying up in the air going higher as you dismiss all of reality. You need a balance like the first one, because if you dismiss reality then there is no way you will survive in this world successfully. It’s fine to live in the Furry-world but you wouldn’t try to bite your boss just because he said something you didn’t like, would you? If that’s a yes then you need help. If it’s a no, then why do you treat others by your furry-world rules? My whole point is don’t lose reality and stop damn labeling people! Furry or not, people are still people regardless and you should never treat them badly or differently just because you labeled them as something. Not all lions will act like a jerk by being "prideful", you don’t have to act in a certain stereotype just cause your animal is stereotyped that way (not all wolves are going to bite your head off. Some are even docile), and defiantly don’t say "non-furries" like the person is an outcast just because they don’t share the same interest as you, and defiantly don’t call them that when the whole situation has nothing to do with furries! It annoys me when someone constantly talks about "furries" even if the conversation/complaint/situation has nothing to do with furries in the first place.

Furries are all people, but not all people are furries. Respect each other regardless, and don’t lose yourself in your fantasy when you live in reality. Find a balance. I am sorry if this offends those who claim to be furries but it has to be said and if it does offend you then maybe you need to actually listen to what I’m saying and try to change things regarding furries. Again this is not about all furries, but just some that I have noticed. I’m not bashing them, I’m just pointing out things I find annoying. A reminder this is my blog so I’m free to post what I want despite other people’s opinions.