Never before have I ever thought I had to rant about why I rant. For those that read my blogs or my ranting bits on other places understand why I rant, right? It has nothing to do with trying to make something change that I dislike. It is simply I am freakin complaining about it so I can get the rising anger out in a healthy way as well as to express myself. Simply, ranting is my stress reliever. So if I am ranting please just let me rant so I can get it out of my system instead of damn poking holes in my logic trying to make me understand that me being upset isn't helping the situation. I am aware of that. All I am doing is getting the emotions out of my system. How hard is that to understand? Why must I break it down any simpler?
I rant about most anything I dislike or have an issue with. Ranting is complaining and complaining is healthy (this does not mean those whiners who complain about the same thing everytiem they get the chance, or the ones that want sympathy). I'm talking complaining as full rants that have an actual reason behind them. All my rants from my blog tell why they annoy me and what can be done to resolve the issue. Though sometimes I do get so pissed off I just want to rant about it and rally up others to help solve the issue. Depending on what the issue is, lets say a facebook page that i strongly disapprove of, I will report the page then share the link with friends so they can report it. I then rant about it and move on with my life. That's it. Yes, I get upset but I'm human with emotions so it's unavoidable. But I do NOT dwell on the issue. I damn rant about it and move on. I know being upset won't change anything but hell that doesn't mean I can't rant about it.
Seriously, how many times must I explain it? I rant about things that I don't like that upsets or annoys me then I move on to something else. It's not that hard to understand, but why did I have to continuously explain to a friend who totaly missed my point about the rant? This friend first told me to ignore it, not be angry because it "gives it attention" (concerning the page of trolls), and my report was invalid since it was unaffective. Then still didn't understand to where he/she said "i'm trying to tell you just cause your upset doesnt mean things will change". Totally missing my point! Just because I'm upset doesn't mean I think things will change. I'm upset because it made me mad and i'm ranting because i'm upset. I rant about something then I will move on. How many times must I say it? I rant, it's what I'm known for and anyone that knows me knows I love to rant.
I never would have guessed I'd rant about why I rant. Don't people already know why I rant? I know now I'm just repeating myself but I'm in disbelief that I have to rant about why I rant because a friend totally misunderstood the simple phrase "im just ranting". Ranting makes me happy! No it doesn't solve the problem but hell I feel better pouring my emotions out. So therefore let me rant for I will be better later. Ranting is good. Ranting means i won't bite your head off when i snap for holding my emotions inside -_- So no telling me to calm down when I'm upset and let me damn rant!
Ok, I'm done ranting about why I rant.
Spirit of the wolves
I am the wolf, hear me howl!
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Friday, November 2, 2012
To Keep a Friend you must to be a Friend.
What makes a friend, a friend? There's many kinds of friends but they all have things in common that makes them a friend. We all go through life having friends but how many real friends does a person gain? How do you even tell if a friend is true or not? I used to believe having lots of friends is a good thing since it meant I loved, but now I only want friends who are true friends which I have down to less than 10. I think it's better to have a few real friends than a bunch of fakes. And currently I am often reminded who are the real ones and who are the fakes.
The saying goes "if you want a friend then you have to be a friend" which is absolutly true because if you don't treat your friends well then they will leave you to find a better friend. Then when you wind up all alone all you can do is blame yourself because it was you who made them walk away. Don't pull that "they all are against me. they are the bad friends" crap because if you have many friends against you then that applies that you are the problem, not them. In order to have friends you must be a friend yourself because if you don't then no one wants to be friends with someone they can't trust.
How can you be a friend? Well there are many simple ways to be a real friend that are easy to follow. Friendship is a two-way street meaning you have to give back as the other person gives to you. If you just take all the time then you are not being a friend to the other person. To give something is always being there for them when they need you and caring for their feelings. It is wrong to purposly hurt someone and if you do then you need to apologize, because you don't want a friend hurting you so why would you hurt them? If you only care about your own feelings that makes you self-centered and no one wants to be freinds with someone who only cares about themselves. Friends care about each other.
Trust plays a very important role in a friendship because if you cannot trust someone then how can you be friends with them? Friends don't lie to each other regardless the reason, nor do they blab behind your back. Why would you have to lie to a friend? Lying means you don't care enough about them to tell them the truth, and without truth there is no friendship. Don't lie. Also what kind of friend talks badly behind another's back? Spreading rumors and insulting the person makes you sound like a jealous insecure jerk, and who wants to be friends with a person like that? That also is harming your friend when you do that, and as i said before that is not a quality of being a friend.
Communication is another important factor and i'm not talking about talking everyday about random chitchat (which is a good thing to have), but the communication where you can talk things out without being scared to speak. Friends should be able to tell anything to each other and not fear the other's response (such as rage), and if you can't talk with your friend civily then you need to rethink your actions. Friends don't lash out with words of hatred and refuse to hear the other side talk. They try to compromise and work thorugh whatever disagreement they had. Would you want to be friends with someone who attacks everything you say? If not then why don't you listen and talk civily instead? Lashing out with words of hate means you don't care about your friend's feelings which makes you not care about your friend in general. Friends don't harm their friends. The same goes for ignorign them, it' is wrong to do because you are not communicating. If you don't want to be ignored then why would you ignore them? Learn to communicate.
Friends always support each other in troublesom times. They never turn their back on a friend regardless the reason. They will support you, and do their best to make your troubles gone. And you should do the same because that's what friends do for each other; they support one another. If you want someone to help you out in times of need then you should help them out as well. This is part of the give method of friendship. You are there for one another. You never bring the person down regardless the reason because that makes you a harrible person. Why would you want to see your friend suffer? Again be there for one another and do good things for each other.
It all comes down is being a good person to your friend and they will return the favor. If you are losing friends then maybe you should ask the question "why?" and look at your own actions. No one loses friends quickly without a valid reason, and that reason could be you. Change your behavior to them and they will stay, but if you don't then don't complain if you have no friends. People don't like to be treated badly, and will stay away from those who harm them. Treat others how you wish to be treated. If a freind throws away the friendship over an argument and refuses to listen to reason then they weren't your friend to begin with. Friends care for one another and if one doesn't care then there is no friendship anymore. Be nice to your friends because you could lose them making you wind up alone without anyone to support you.
The saying goes "if you want a friend then you have to be a friend" which is absolutly true because if you don't treat your friends well then they will leave you to find a better friend. Then when you wind up all alone all you can do is blame yourself because it was you who made them walk away. Don't pull that "they all are against me. they are the bad friends" crap because if you have many friends against you then that applies that you are the problem, not them. In order to have friends you must be a friend yourself because if you don't then no one wants to be friends with someone they can't trust.
How can you be a friend? Well there are many simple ways to be a real friend that are easy to follow. Friendship is a two-way street meaning you have to give back as the other person gives to you. If you just take all the time then you are not being a friend to the other person. To give something is always being there for them when they need you and caring for their feelings. It is wrong to purposly hurt someone and if you do then you need to apologize, because you don't want a friend hurting you so why would you hurt them? If you only care about your own feelings that makes you self-centered and no one wants to be freinds with someone who only cares about themselves. Friends care about each other.
Trust plays a very important role in a friendship because if you cannot trust someone then how can you be friends with them? Friends don't lie to each other regardless the reason, nor do they blab behind your back. Why would you have to lie to a friend? Lying means you don't care enough about them to tell them the truth, and without truth there is no friendship. Don't lie. Also what kind of friend talks badly behind another's back? Spreading rumors and insulting the person makes you sound like a jealous insecure jerk, and who wants to be friends with a person like that? That also is harming your friend when you do that, and as i said before that is not a quality of being a friend.
Communication is another important factor and i'm not talking about talking everyday about random chitchat (which is a good thing to have), but the communication where you can talk things out without being scared to speak. Friends should be able to tell anything to each other and not fear the other's response (such as rage), and if you can't talk with your friend civily then you need to rethink your actions. Friends don't lash out with words of hatred and refuse to hear the other side talk. They try to compromise and work thorugh whatever disagreement they had. Would you want to be friends with someone who attacks everything you say? If not then why don't you listen and talk civily instead? Lashing out with words of hate means you don't care about your friend's feelings which makes you not care about your friend in general. Friends don't harm their friends. The same goes for ignorign them, it' is wrong to do because you are not communicating. If you don't want to be ignored then why would you ignore them? Learn to communicate.
Friends always support each other in troublesom times. They never turn their back on a friend regardless the reason. They will support you, and do their best to make your troubles gone. And you should do the same because that's what friends do for each other; they support one another. If you want someone to help you out in times of need then you should help them out as well. This is part of the give method of friendship. You are there for one another. You never bring the person down regardless the reason because that makes you a harrible person. Why would you want to see your friend suffer? Again be there for one another and do good things for each other.
It all comes down is being a good person to your friend and they will return the favor. If you are losing friends then maybe you should ask the question "why?" and look at your own actions. No one loses friends quickly without a valid reason, and that reason could be you. Change your behavior to them and they will stay, but if you don't then don't complain if you have no friends. People don't like to be treated badly, and will stay away from those who harm them. Treat others how you wish to be treated. If a freind throws away the friendship over an argument and refuses to listen to reason then they weren't your friend to begin with. Friends care for one another and if one doesn't care then there is no friendship anymore. Be nice to your friends because you could lose them making you wind up alone without anyone to support you.
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