The acts of stupidity in relationships

It's been awhile since my last rant and here's another relationship rant. I've been reading lots of Facebook and other social sites regarding relationships and I'm still amazed how stupid people can be. Well in this post I will be talking about specific stupidity from people in relationships.

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First off the quick relationships are getting annoying. You know the types where they just started dating and it's "true love" at first sight. Then give it a week either they're broken up, engaged/married, or even with child. Oh the many rants about how stupid people can concerning the quick relationships as those. To sum it all up they are stupid. First off why don't they get to know each other before making big decsisions? Date for least three months before deciding if this person is marraige material or least if the relationship will last. How about using condoms if you do have have sex to prevent any pregnancies? Seriously, do people think anymore?

Marriage is when two people who love each other do when they want to live their life together. Note the word "Life" so you will understand what marriage means. It's not something to try for fun because it requires work and devotion to your partner. Are you ready to pay bills together, live in the same house all the time, and spend your time with this person for a lifetime? Think before you act because if you don't know if you "love" this person then you have no right to get married to them. Before you marry you should wait least three months to know if your "love" is even true. Again ever heard of infatuation? It's that giddy feeling that makes you happy when you see a person you like, but if it lasts longer than three months when dating then the love is real. If it's been a week then your so called "love" isnt' real and you are a moron if you want to get married to this person when you only dated a week. Read past rants in this blog to know other opinions regarding what true love really is. Stop confusing infatuation with love! You don't know what damn love is if you have more failed relationships claiming you "loved" each of those people. If you "love" so quickly to different people then you are stupid regarding love. Marriage should be where two people who truly loves each other. Not some immature couple who thinks it's all fun and games with more failed "loves" than they'd like to admit. I repeat slow down and date awhile before you consider marraige! You are just going to mess up your lives if you marry too early than you are ready for.

Next is the relationships regarding pregnancy which is the most stupidest thing someone can do. You may "love" this person and wish to make love to them but are you stupid enough to not to use a condom? Condoms are to prevent pregnancy (not 100% but good enough). Are you ready for a child? Do you know for sure if your partner will stay by your side and help? Can you afford to have a child? Use a condom when you have sex! It's not rocket science so stop acting like an idiot and use one already. But whoops you didn't so know you are pregnant and what I notice is your "love" isnt' sticking around. Either the person wants nothing to do with you and the baby, or they are not trying hard enough. Who's fault is this? Both of yours for being idiots. Now you have a responsibility to that child so she/he comes first regardless. So no more thinking about yourself so man/woman up and take responsibilty for the baby you know have because you didnt' use a condom. The baby deserves a good life with caring parents that put him/her first. No matter what that baby is a blessing but you two are still idiots if you complaining about how "hard it is".

And what bugs me the most about the relatiionships due to pregnancy is when one person complaining about the other not being there for them. Stop your damn complaining cause it's your fault for thinking you were "in love" with them enough to have a baby in the first place. Yes, you have the right to complain but if you let them slack off then again it's your fault. So get off yuor ass and do something about it! Words are only useless if you refuse to put action behind them. Don't like how they never spend time with the baby and you? Make them spend time or leave them. Don't stay with someone who is abusing you (mentally or physically) because they will just make your life harder. Yes it's the baby's mother/father but the child needs to be loved not neglected. Take responsibility. Oh enough with the "We do love each other! we're just going through hard times. he/she is truly a great parent and i just needed to rant" well if you "love" each other than why is every damn post about how awful this person is? Again stop complaining and do something about it. Also stop complaining about how "hard" it is to take care of everything. No one said it was going to be easy! Once more it was your own stupidity that got you in that "mess" so unless you are pointing the finger at yourself, why are you complaining? Those that complain more without doing something to fix it are just idiots who want things handed to them instead of taking responsibility for thier own past actions.

I am sick and tired of hearing a girl gets knocked up then making a whole big show and drama out of their life. It's stupid and degrading to girls everywhere who do make good choices and take responsibility. That show "Teen Moms" is a prime example, Why in the hell would you want to have a child when you aren't even ready? Then you have all this unwanted drama in your life over situations that you handle poorly. Honestly I hate reality shows like Teen Mom and it's bad enough reality is truly like that with stupid people getting pregnant. I feel bad for the babies because they are born to immature parents. I rather be ready mentally and financially before I bring forth a baby into this world becase that way it be less drama and the baby will have a decent life instead of meaningless yelling, having to grow up without both parents who spend time with them, and knowing that is alright to have a child when they are still immature themselves. Ask yourself, would you want your baby to have a baby of their own just like you? If not then stop treating it like it's nothing! It's wrong to have babies when you are not mature enough!

I understand in certain sitations such as rape that it is alright. But that is only because the person was forcefully put into that situation. Unlike you who chose to make a stupid act putting yourself in that situation. Well I could go on and on about how stupid people like that are but then this blog will get too long. the point is it's stupid to get pregnant when you chose not to use a condom when you aren't ready for a child. It's stupid to complain about a hard life when you chose to have that life. It's stupid to "love" someone after dating them a week before you get married or even pregnant. It's stupid to complain about your "love" when you refuse to do anything about their actions. If you don't want to be called stupid then stop doing stupid acts. It's that simple.

Oh and don't say "you have no right to judge me! You dont' know the whole story!" Uh you post it all online so I have every right to say my opinion since you gave me the information. Don't like being judged? Then don't post it online where everyone can see it. Private matters should stay private. Also unlike you I don't make stupid acts. I've been with my partner for going on three years now and we are engaged to only be married when we both have jobs that will support us. We are going to wait least a year after marriage before thinking about kids so we can be ready. This is called planning which you didnt' do. We waited a year before getting engaged and we actually work out our problems if we complain. So I have every right to judge since you are the one complaining about a life that you chose to have while posting online for everyone to see! So once again you are an idiot. Immature isn't of age, it's the level of stupidity.